She's got to be Somebody's Baby...
but unfortunately, she's heading for a life "in the system", as are most babies born to babies...if on no other level than sucking up more public assistance funds due to the poor choices made at all levels.
Let's start with the parents of teens (male and female)...where on earth did they ever get the idea that co-ed sleepovers were "okay", or the stupidity to believe that "nothing will happen"?!?! I've got a lovely piece of swampland in Florida to sell to these parents.
Then there are those teens that believe that they can actually raise a child, finish high school, have a productive life without regrets, and not have that same child(ren) down the line do exactly the same thing to them. We won't even backtrack at this point to the trail of lies and deception that enabled them to get pregnant in the first place.
Let's move to the societal crap instead - the counselors at school who tell them "it's okay", and "if your parents won't help you, we will", and "nobody can make you give up your baby". Considering these "well-meaning" adults spewing out the free advice aren't the ones who will directly pay the costs, it's more than a little bit hypocritical.
Then there are the baby showers held - nice idea considering these teens can't even afford the basics in the first place, but it leaves them with the entitlement mentality. They begin believing that if they can't afford things for their baby, someone will give it to them. It also gives them, and their friends, the idea that it is "okay" to have a child when you aren't even able to support yourself. Lets add in the birth announcements in the local paper - more broadcasting the mistaken impression that kids having kids is just fine.
The court system is next on the list - even when the grandparents of the "little bundle" are capable of providing support and insurance, the judges often won't order joint custody - the paperwork needed by many insurance plans to provide coverage. Instead, the teen mommy is thrust onto the paperwork trail of social services - and further given the impression that she is capable of "providing" for the baby (at taxpayer expense) and reinforcing the entitlement mentality. This is the same mother who lied to get herself in this position, and isn't financially able to take care of herself, yet suddenly giving birth makes her capable of caring for an infant?
Don't get me wrong, I do not resent the babies themselves, for all children are a gift from God. But something has to change in this system that allows and encourages babies to end up with parents who toss them in the trash (either literally or figuratively) and allows loving couples who are unable to have children of their own to go without.
This is one more example of the "me first" society at it's "me worst". The thought processes of the mothers and grandparents often are along the lines of not wanting someone else to raise the child, or not wanting a baby of their own blood out there without knowing anything about it. Unfortunately, what almost never comes to mind first is what is best for the baby - and usually that is being place in a home that can provide love and support (both financial and emotional) from adults.
With the news regularly filled with reports of babies being killed or abused by young and/or immature parents, it is time to rethink this philosophy that has pervaded our society. Our children aren't capable of raising children - at least not in a way that does service to the infants or to our future.
Let's start with the parents of teens (male and female)...where on earth did they ever get the idea that co-ed sleepovers were "okay", or the stupidity to believe that "nothing will happen"?!?! I've got a lovely piece of swampland in Florida to sell to these parents.
Then there are those teens that believe that they can actually raise a child, finish high school, have a productive life without regrets, and not have that same child(ren) down the line do exactly the same thing to them. We won't even backtrack at this point to the trail of lies and deception that enabled them to get pregnant in the first place.
Let's move to the societal crap instead - the counselors at school who tell them "it's okay", and "if your parents won't help you, we will", and "nobody can make you give up your baby". Considering these "well-meaning" adults spewing out the free advice aren't the ones who will directly pay the costs, it's more than a little bit hypocritical.
Then there are the baby showers held - nice idea considering these teens can't even afford the basics in the first place, but it leaves them with the entitlement mentality. They begin believing that if they can't afford things for their baby, someone will give it to them. It also gives them, and their friends, the idea that it is "okay" to have a child when you aren't even able to support yourself. Lets add in the birth announcements in the local paper - more broadcasting the mistaken impression that kids having kids is just fine.
The court system is next on the list - even when the grandparents of the "little bundle" are capable of providing support and insurance, the judges often won't order joint custody - the paperwork needed by many insurance plans to provide coverage. Instead, the teen mommy is thrust onto the paperwork trail of social services - and further given the impression that she is capable of "providing" for the baby (at taxpayer expense) and reinforcing the entitlement mentality. This is the same mother who lied to get herself in this position, and isn't financially able to take care of herself, yet suddenly giving birth makes her capable of caring for an infant?
Don't get me wrong, I do not resent the babies themselves, for all children are a gift from God. But something has to change in this system that allows and encourages babies to end up with parents who toss them in the trash (either literally or figuratively) and allows loving couples who are unable to have children of their own to go without.
This is one more example of the "me first" society at it's "me worst". The thought processes of the mothers and grandparents often are along the lines of not wanting someone else to raise the child, or not wanting a baby of their own blood out there without knowing anything about it. Unfortunately, what almost never comes to mind first is what is best for the baby - and usually that is being place in a home that can provide love and support (both financial and emotional) from adults.
With the news regularly filled with reports of babies being killed or abused by young and/or immature parents, it is time to rethink this philosophy that has pervaded our society. Our children aren't capable of raising children - at least not in a way that does service to the infants or to our future.
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